Have you experienced being physically in but mentally out? Three weeks ago, my mother in law’s submission to enter the eternal life came that brought us and the rest of the family sorrow and grief. I can feel the agonizing pain that my hubby was feeling for I loved her too. She was like a real mother to me. She was a wonderful person with a big, big heart not only for her family but to the rest of the people around her in their town. She was loved by all. She’s a secret provider to those who are needy. She loves to help others. She’s an angel for most of the people.
In the eyes of my son and daughter she’s a wonderful grandma. They had great times together during our recent vacation. My son kept on asking me why grandma needs to go away. Why she will not be with us anymore. It’s difficult to let them understand about death. Telling them that she went to a place wherein she’ll not feel pain anymore, to a safer and happier place of eternity is somewhat vague for them at their young age to understand.
Every night my son would tell me that mommy will be old too, then die and with tears in his eyes he would say, “I don’t want you to die mommy.”
I gave him an assurance that mommy will stay with him forever no matter what happens.
Death in a family is difficult as well as acceptance. Every night we offer a rosary for her soul and fresh flowers in the altar. You will always be remembered and will always stay in our hearts for our love for you dear mother is great and vast.
Mourning is a very long process. And I guess it depends to every persons how to deal with it. Only time and patience and more love from families, relatives and friends would be great help for a person to move on with her/his life after the death of a loved one. After all we are all going to be in that direction at the end of our lives. Life must go on without forgetting those beloved who have gone to their eternal rests.