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i can still remember we went to a friend’s house (eight months ago) to finish what my hubby started, helping to upgrade a friend’s computer. Ate P was just 16 months old and she was playing with Kid XX ( a 5 yrs. old kid). At first, they got along well, since we are the visitor, and hubby was helping them with their computer so the parent were so very accomodating to ate P.

But the kid seems to be adamant in letting ate P play with some of his toys. in the first place, ate P would not touch anything not unless being motivated to do so. and as hours passed, the kid seemed to be impatient to ate P. everytime ate P would touch his toy he would shout at her. and worst time came when he took from their bedroom another toy and he did not want it to share but to let only ate P see it. and as a toddler of 16 mos. she’s curious that she wanted to play with it too. he shouldn’t have shown it to her if he doesn’t want to share it with ate P.

what’s the problem with this kid? parents should have told him to back off and if he doesn’t want to share his toys then why expose it to ate P. as for me, i don’t want a lengthy discussion with my toddler on an unruly behavior, just told ate p that she can just doodle and draw to avoid more fights. but really, it’s disappointing to have a kid with a behavior like that at that age to mention. As much as possible, I always teach my kid to lend and share toys or foods with other kids.

I always teach and remind her that it’s important to share her toys to a playmate and she would say that she will and she knows how to share but the problem is sometimes other kids would want to take everything from her so that’s the start of the chaos.

Like what happened when a neighbor toddler was outside our house when little P and her nanny were playing outside and with her nature of being generous, she quickly ran inside and took the racquet. But what happened next the kid was aiming the racquet to her face. still she played with her and even invited the neighbor toddler to come up to the second floor to play with her toys.

Next thing that happened, the two of them were screaming. Seems that neighbor toddler wants to hoard every toys insight and everything that ate P would touch she’ll grab.

And last resort was to let the neighbor toddler to go home before worst scenario would occur.

I don’t want that my daughter be bullied so before it happens i make it sure that my toddler will be safe.

And if she’s in her calm self you can talk to her the normal way, but if she’s having some bad day (which only occur if she lacks sleep, deprived of some chocolates and sweets—coz we don’t want her to be addicted to sweets, or if momsy or dada do not want to give in to what she wants, yes…she’s a demanding toddler!) the following course of action should take place: a.) Talk to her in short phrases b.) Talk to her in a low tone c.)Repeat what she wants to convey in that way she’s assured that you really listened and understand her d.)Use a facial expression and body language that shows that you care and respect her.

Shouting back at her would do no good and bears only more defiance in her part. She’s a tough kiddo and it will only make her tougher.